Drinking in the slow days

The past couple of weeks have flown by and while I’ve been meaning to write – I haven’t been able to make the time. Yes, I 100% could have written a blog post during the hour I spend collapsed into the couch before it’s finally time for bed, but lately, that’s what I’ve needed.

We’ve got a lot going on – work-wise, socially, and our almost two year old is keeping us on our TOES lately. If you’re caught up, we transitioned Dane out of his crib a little over a week ago – I wrote about our initial experience here. Approximately 5 days after the transition, I found this article online after a particularly outrageous nighttime “routine”, and posted it on Facebook. I wasn’t shocked to get so many responses from friends going through similar situations. This article is a couple years old, but it spoke right to my soul and truer words have never been written on the Internet about toddlers and bedtime.

As an update to this fun phase of life – we’ve determined a few things:

  • Earlier bedtimes are better – they lead to less “over tiredness” (who knew?)
  • Setting the ground rules is very important
  • Getting frustrated and showing it only makes him laugh – so remain calm no matter how close you are to losing it.
  • This one is very important: don’t wait to eat dinner until “after he goes down” because you might not be eating until damn near 9pm.

Maybe we’re a little crazy for making plans during this wild transition, or maybe we just know that we can’t stop life from coming because our little boy is growing and changing. The last two weekends have been really amazing – some of those days that you just savor and let slide by with very few responsibilities. Well, except the impossible task of getting Dane to take naps and go to bed. 😉

After a great signing day – my brother was able to come home for a little over a week, so we did a lot of family-ing. It’s so wonderful when he’s home because he brings a LOT of joy to all of us. Dane absolutely loves it too, and Hank is such a natural with him.

Last weekend we spent all of our time at our house, watching the Olympics, playing in the snow and laughing. A lot. I actually woke up on Saturday thinking it was Sunday – which meant I got to enjoy the day even more knowing the weekend was just ramping up.

This past weekend we drove up to our family’s getaway in the north woods for more relaxation and time together. Originally we hadn’t planned to go up because it’s a pretty long drive for just a few nights, but my dad asked us to join in and we knew how much it meant to him. We’ve been in kind of a holding pattern with my dad’s health for a few months now, which has been a good thing, but we still don’t know when life could change so we have to act on opportunities like this.

It’s not easy to watch my dad’s rollercoaster ride, or think about what’s coming down the pipe for us. But one thing we know for sure is that we’re so thankful for the time. We didn’t even know if my dad would be around to celebrate Dane’s 1st birthday… but here we are just two weeks out from his Itsy Bitsy themed 2nd birthday and Dad is every bit as much with us as we could have hoped. Sure, there are ups and downs, but we roll with it, together.

Weekends like the past two get me feeling introspective and honestly, a little emotional. They always recharge my batteries and make my heart full. They remind me to take a step back and remember there are bigger and more important things. They help me approach bedtime with our little monster with more grace and patience. I’m not sure what the next months will have in store for us, but I know one thing – there will be more weekends like these.


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Wisconsin wife and mama to Dane (4) and expecting baby girl in May. Navigating life post-cancer. Lover of food, red wine and laughs. Forever grateful for my wonderful life.

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